What are Tara Talks all about? As some of you will already know, I am the owner of Dream Bear UK, a single Mum to the incredible Isla-Mae and someone doing her best to navigate the rollercoaster world of raising a child. You can find out a little more about me and what Dream Bear UK is all about here.
These Tara Talks blog posts, however, are a chance for me to speak directly to you about things I find important, amusing, frustrating and possibly even useful. For important and useful information, there are many sections of the DreamBear website which are set up for that, from free or cheap days out to dealing with bullying. For my personal thoughts on single parenting and all things living, these sometimes tongue in cheek posts *or Tara Talks) are where you’ll find the “real” me.
What some people don’t realise is that when you are a single parent, you have to look at some things a little differently. I have to make sure that I look after myself for example because….
- There is only me, and I need to be healthy and well so that I can look after my daughter.
- Parenting is blooming exhausting and I need to look after me because otherwise the duct tape that holds so many of us parents together might start to come loose. Stiff upper lip my foot, I need my “me time” so that I can get what I need done and enjoy life. If that means taking time out for exercise and time with adults, so be it. If that involves an occasional tube or three of Pringles and a Netflix binge session, then I’m good with that too.
- By looking after myself I can ensure that I feel good about myself. Parenting is hard and going solo, well, that’s a whole different kettle of fish. I’m proud of what I’ve achieved though, that Isla-Mae is growing up to be such a wonderful young lady and that I remembered just in time that she had to go dressed to school in something different to the norm the other day (after finding a soggy screwed up letter in the deepest darkest depths of the school bag). I should feel good, I’m doing a good job (even when I drop the ball occasionally) and I’m going to guess so are all of you. Yes, us parents do need to take care of ourselves, and others, because we deserve to feel good despite our ridiculous workloads!
When you’re a parent your priorities change and you look at things differently.
These Tara Talks blog posts are all about the realities of single parenting, about how things out in the world affect some of us and hopefully, will make your smile or even enjoy a good old-fashioned belly laugh from time to time.
So, what would you like to hear about? What aspects of parenting, being a lone parent, juggling work and life and everything else would you most like to hear about? Feel free to comment below or contact me via the Facebook page or the DreamBear Twitter if you have anything that you specifically want to hear about.